Mohosho Pofane, a graduate of Bachelor of Laws degree (LLB) at the National University of Lesotho has published his first book titled Getting Played.
The book released on January 6 2021, was dubbed the ultimate guide to a healthy relationship, as the name suggests, it’s a book about relationships and dating.
The author said throughout his life, he observed the beauty of love.
“Love is a risk that most people take over and over again with the hope of finding the perfect partner with whom they are willing to spend the rest of their lives,” said Pofane.
He attributes the book to life’s challenges in relationships, where he says in the journey of life, people learn different lessons due to different outcomes such as being played or cheated or ghosted and some end up changing their whole perspective on relationships.
“In this love journey, while we’re searching, we end up in toxic situations, being played or ghosted, as a result, we end up looking at the whole notion of love differently,” he said.
“Some people give in to the cruelty and play the game too, while others keep hoping for a good partner and try over and over again,” he said.
Pofane says “Getting Played” is a book that will specifically provide readers with that difference between people who come with intentions to play and those who come with genuinely good intentions.
Born in Teyateyaneng, Ha Mokhehle, in the Berea district, Phofane says writing has always been his passion.
“Besides law and changing lives with my activism, my passion has always been writing amongst others and I aim to fulfill that.
“The book was motivated by the fact that what most Africans call dating in the western context, may have a different interpretation from the African context.
“Here we hardly do dinner dates, movie nights, road trips, etc. Most Africans didn’t grow up in cities where you can just grab a milkshake or some ice cream with your partner after school or work,” he said.
“Our childhoods were not as glamorous to a point where you could just start your car and drive your partner to school.
“The point I’m making is that we may not be as romantic as we think we are, or whatever it is that we do in the name of love, may not be romance at all,” he added.
He pointed out that American textbooks on relationships and dating talk about romance in the context of the ‘American’ lifestyle hence their theory does not in principle apply to culture of romance as African people.
“As a result, I went out of my way to write about Dating and Relationships in the context of our own culture, as Africans and as the citizens of Lesotho,” Pofane said.
The book boasts chapters on topic like ‘The psychology of players’, ‘Why people get played’, ‘How to play a player into a serious relationship’ and ‘The notion of a side-chick’.
Getting Played is a book meant to teach readers everything they need to know to avoid getting heart-broken. The book does not only address players but it also touches on general dating, which eliminates the perception that it only speaks to women and girls.
“I have had gents complain that my book gives the game away, the same gents who have scores of female best friends that they discuss everything about relationships with on daily basis, from dating advice to lying about other gents with the hope that at one point they’ll get their chances with those women. My book is a different best-friend because it has no personal agenda,” the author said.
If you’re looking for anything to get you through the financial and emotional drain of the lockdown, or a present for your partner this valentine’s day, GETTING PLAYED is your option. After all, a chapter a day keeps insanity at bay!